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If you are using cpanel, you need to go through database then select remote mysql. Once the page is opened, you can add your remote ip to the list by clicking add host.

I do not know whether you want to use your mysql from vds to webhost or webhost to vds. Situation may differ. If you want to use your mysql from webhost you can apply what I've mentioned. If not, you can do vise versa. I mean if you do not have cpanel on your vds you can simply reach phpmyadmin or workbench etc then change the permission from user management.

Note : Also, you can type what you want to say about mysql to the related topic. You do not need to open a new thread.